Sometimes the guilt that you feel after she cheats is unavoidable as her cheating has put you in what might seem a lose/lose situation as far as guilt is concerned.
The message that guilt is sending you is that you have violated one of your own highest standards and that you must do something immediately to make sure that you don’t violate that standard again in the future.
Basically guilt pops up after she cheats because it usually puts two of your highest standards against each other.
Standard number one being that the woman you are in a committed relationship with treat you with respect and remain faithful to you.
Standard number two being that you treat the woman that you love with respect and do everything in your power to keep the two of you together.
The guilt comes in because one of these standards that you hold for yourself will be broken.
However, when you deal with and acknowledge the feeling of guilt you can begin to clearly see that if you hold her up to these same standards, she has broken both of them if you make not violating your own highest standards a requirement for the woman that you love.
In your mind, her cheating on you eliminates her from being a part of standard number two, which means that the only reason you can feel guilty after she cheats on you, is if you stay with her thus violating your own standard of having a woman treat you with respect and remain faithful to you.
Of course many times you might not even be aware of your own highest standards and the feelings of guilt give you the opportunity to acknowledge your highest standards in yourself and perhaps reevaluate and change them if necessary.
Teddy Shabba has been helping men achieve happiness and success with women in a way that allows you to feel authentic and comfortable with women.
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